You come home from a long day at work. So happy to see dinner already cooked. You sit down at the table, then your wife says: “Yeah, all I do is cook and clean up. I’m just a maid in this house”. Almost choked on the food, didn’t you?

Or you’re all beaming up receiving a nice present on your birthday, then the giver says ” Yeah, not like someone who forgot my birthday”. Feel like a deflated balloon, like shit, doesn’t it?

When people do something nice, why can’t they just leave it at that? I understand people throws in the sarcasm because they want you to feel guilty. The manipulation is there, consciously or unconsciously. People also think they have the upper hand when they’re able to say something that hurts. And I wonder its effectiveness. It sure ain’t working on me. I would just stop eating the food, or receiving any more gifts. I’ve lived my life on guilt trips long enough, I just won’t allow people pulling it on me anymore.

If you do a good deed, or being nice to someone, it should really come from the heart: a simple act of loving. Give with no intention of receiving.

So, the next time you do something nice to someone, whether the person shows his appreciation or not, just be happy that you’re able to bring happiness to someone. And if you sense your tongue about to slash out, refrain and ask yourself if this is necessary.